Figuring out what you are meant to do

Deep down inside, everyone has a unique set of values that dictate what they do on a daily basis.  Your values subconciously drive your actions, and your actions help fullfill your life's purpose.  If it wasn't for your concious decisions, you would already spend all of your time fullfilling your life's purpose. 

Unfortunately, most people make their concious decisions around what they think they "should" do.  In other words, they spend their time and concious efforts according to other people's values.  The most common reason most of us make our decisions around what we "should" do is WE DON'T KNOW WHAT WE INTERNALLY VALUE.  In this post, I'm going to help you fix that.

Not living according to your own values results in unhappiness, depression, frustration, and eventualy a mid life crises.  Simply living in alignment with your values leads to happiness, fullfillment, and a rewarding vocational carear (most likely financialy lucrative). 

After you become conciously aware of your values, the sky is the limit.  Let's pick up where we left off in last week's post with these three questions:

1.  What three things do you spend the majority of your time on during an average week day?

2.  What three things do you currently spend the majority of your time doing during a typical weekend?

3.  When you are alone in your car driving (probably to or from work), what three things do you most often think about?

If you didn't comment last week with your top three answers to these questions, please comment this week.  If you take the time to sincerely answer these questions, I'll take the time to read through and reach out to you via email in a sincere attempt to help you identify your core values.

The answers to these questions help to reveal what your subconcious self steers you toward when your concious decisions are not interferring.  You already naturaly do what you love to do.   Your task is to simply identify what it is. 

If you think it is your life's purpose to become a life coach, but you never find yourself serving others as a coach, there is a good chance coaching IS NOT your life's purpose.  If you think your life's purpose is to start your own business and earn passive income, but you havn't made substantial steps towards starting a business or earning passive income, there is a good chance owning a business and earning passive income is not your life's purpose.  If you think your life's purpose is to travel around the world, but you've never traveled, there is a good chance traveling around the world is not your life's purpose.

If the examples above are all true for you, it DOESN'T mean coaching, starting a buiness, and traveling will not play an important role in your future.  It just means these activities are not your core purpose.  They may still play a role in helping you fullfill your values, but they will be vehicles to help you get where you are going, not the destination itself.

Here are my answers to the above three questions:

1.  What three things do you spend the majority of your time on during an average week day?
Working on the side business I am trying to start at the time.
Organizing my construction site (my day job is a superintendent).
Listening to audio books and podcasts about starting new businesses (while driving to and from work).
2.  What three things do you currently spend the majority of your time doing during a typical weekend?
Spend time with my wife and kids doing whatever they want to do.
Manage my rental properties by keeping up on the accounting, collecting rent, or managing maintenance items.
Read a book related to self development.
3.  When you are alone in your car driving (probably to or from work), what three things do you most often think about?
Different possibilities for profitable side businesses.
Ideas to help out friends and family with their businesses.
I play out different economic senarious in my head and analyze how they will effect different investments and business types.

If you read through my answers you will see a common thread.  My subconcious efforts focus on finding a way to quit my current day job and replace it with a side business.  Post your answers below and I'll help you identify what your subconcious efforts focus on.

After we understand what our subconcious efforts focus on, we can start to disect why, which will lead us to our highest core value.  I'll disect my own highest value and show you how to disect yours in next week's post.